There’s been a lot chatter across the blogging world lately of this whole people feeling the need to be busy, and not letting themselves take some time for themselves, or even for other people, which was perfectly laid out in Beth Sandland’s post. But with all this going around, it made me realise that I don’t exactly act like I’m busy constantly. However I do have this need to work hard for something and be able to be busy with something – whether it be blogging, photography or something else my mind is forever on getting to a point where I can work hard on something. Which, incidentally has left me in an impatient and slightly anxious frenzy. So maybe I need to look towards how to detox from being busy?
And, within all this, I feel I like I forget how young I am. Like, dude, I’m 19, why am I like this? I honestly just think it’s simply who I am, but I do feel as a generation, we feel this need to succeed and grow and mature, and it’s this constant race against the clock, but is it time we just take a breath?
I’m not knocking following and striving towards goals. Of course not. However we can’t expect to have success on your doorstep and for hard work to be a constant uphill climb. Or maybe I should say I can’t expect that, I don’t know – anyone else? I always feel if I don’t get to this goal at this point, or ever, I won’t be happy with life, especially as I have a rather vivid perspective on how I see my future lifestyle. It’s almost as if I have to meet my own expectations, and honestly my own pressure is the most intense pressure I’ve received.
But why am I expecting myself to do it all now? For real, is anyone else like this? I act like I’m ready to live a true adult lifestyle, and honestly I see my degree as taking up 3 years I could use to work on this idealistic lifestyle, when in reality neither are true, I can’t even book my own doctors appointments yet…
I definitely feel we have a need to be mature and older than we do. And I just think that’s an age thing. We joke about being old ladies because we meet up for coffee and have nights in. Which is weird. Our age are portrayed as being ‘young and wild’ in much of the media – which maybe we should be? In no way am I saying don’t do nights in or go on coffee dates, heck no. But just appreciating and taking advantage of not having those responsibilities or set backs. Because I do believe having, I hate this phrase, but ‘life experiences’ is so important to open you up to what is out there. I was watching a psychology video the other day and it spoke about how, in your life, you are the main character so what happens to you and those very close to you, are the be all and end all, which I’d say is pretty inevitable, but of course you don’t know what that person drinking a cappuccino on the table next to you is going through. And it made me realise this is the time to widen my circle and generally my mind of other people’s stories and beliefs.
And now I’m in this weird state of knowing I’m being silly. Yet I still get in a frenzy of ‘I need to sort my life out I’m running out of time’. So I took some time to work out what I need to do to give myself a bit of a reality check. And how, if you may be in the same place, hopefully this will help you take a step back from the bustling life in a fast lane.
SPEAK TO PEOPLE YOUR AGE
Sounds weird, I know, but I do generally speak to people older than I am. So ultimately I can forget how young I am and end up comparing my life to theirs. Which doesn’t make sense. So keep a circle of people your age and in the same place as you. It’ll keep you aware that you aren’t behind or lacking and keep you in almost a youthful state to let you go at your own pace and not make you feel like you have to rush into things.
If you need a more tangible eye opener – this book is for you. And there’s really no age restrictions to reading this. Both me and my parents can take bits from it. It talks about this modern idea that we are starved for time. And the whole philosophy around it – and the idea that because we maybe don’t succeed. We fail and use the excuse of time. I don’t want to say much more, read it.
Again, a weird one, but even if it’s on your own to pop into town. Grab a coffee or walking your dog, I just think being outside helps. It’s fresh air and you aren’t stuck inside with 1000 tabs ope in your mind, thoughts bouncing off the walls back into your brain.
On the other end of the spectrum, go to more events, go away for a weekend, even go travelling. Do the youthful thing. And don’t worry about the pressure to go far and own a house and have a family. you do you.
I don’t really know how to conclude this, I could go on and on honestly. But the word count is saying otherwise. So I do hope my word vomit helped in anyway, I just think we can all do with a reality check once in a while. I definitely do, so if this didn’t help anyone at least it reminded me to calm the f down. And on that note…
Until next time,