Things We Need To Stop Apologising For As Bloggers

RIGHT. I’m a Brit, so I say sorry to literally everything. Like I walked into a chair and said sorry kinda sorry. HOWEVER, I’ve seen the word sorry floating around the blogging world a lot. And manners is great, but they’re popping up in completely the wrong places. So Imma talk about it. Here are the things we need to stop apologising for as bloggers.

Not for any deeper reason a part from the fact it’s not necessary really. We shouldn’t feel like we’re skating on thin ice, and if we keep going on like the blogging worlds is super sensitive then it’ll just be such a filtered community. As opposed to the raw and real community we know and love. I don’t know if that’s a controversial thought of ‘unpopular opinion’ but hey ho. Also this isn’t a dig at all, I’m guilty of saying sorry too much as well. If anything I want this to be reassurance and a confidence boost to do you.

Things we need to stop apologising for as bloggers

TAKING A BREAK

This is one of the big ones for me. I can understand why people want to apologise, as people might be expecting content from you. However whether blogging is your full time job, part time job or a hobby, you’re entitled to your breaks. The best way I can pose this is imagine if you were, say a journalist, you’d get holiday. Granted, when money comes into play it’s another story. But my point is everyone else can have time off and won’t come back to work apologising, so you really shouldn’t feel the need. You have complete control of your blog and you shouldn’t feel guilty for taking time off! Also, time off is great for finding new inspiration and motivation, so it can be a good thing!

ANOTHER ONE

DJ Khaled who? Anyways, I see a lot of ‘another fashion post, sorry’ or something a long those lines. Whether it’s the same product/outfit or set of photos. And it blows my mind. My Instagram has basically been the same 3/4 sets of photos for the past months, because I bloomin’ love every photo in those shoots and I want to show them off. So if you love an outfit/product/photo flaunt it, because I’m pretty sure your followers will love it too! I kind of feel like the ‘sorry’ in this sense, is more of a ‘soz’, it’s unpretentious. But if you don’t have time to take photos constantly, or you’re broke like me and can’t buy new clothes then why not, it’s so convenient. You don’t want those beaut pictures to be lost in your camera roll! It’s not spammy or boring at all, so long as you like the content that’s all that matters.

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GETTING PERSONAL

I felt this one hugely recently, I’ve been writing a lot more personal posts and I’ve constantly wanted to put sorry in every other sentence. Simply because it’s seeing a very real side of me, and I don’t know if that’s #content or #cringey. Deep down I know it’s content and it’s going to reach people in similar situations. But I hate seeming like a downer on things. And I see it on a lot of other people’s posts. It kind of makes my heart melt really, because there’s no need to apologise for being human. Again with the internet being a very sensitive place sometimes it can be hard to express feelings, but please don’t apologise. Honestly pat yourself on the back for writing that post and hitting publish because it’s so damn brave. Similarly with ranting or long captions/posts, if you’ve got something you need to get off your chest. Get it off. It’s your space you do you. Kinda like what I’m doing with this post lol.

#AD

I recently saw a full time blogger apologise for doing a lot of ads recently. And part of me understood, sometimes the people just want to see some og content. But at the same time I was like ‘come again for big fudge?’ (please tell me you got that reference) Because its their job? Why are they apologising for being self made and earning an income? Babe celebrate it. It’s still their content, I rarely see brand deals which are putting the words into the blogger’s mouth. I said rarely, not at all. And usually, they have really unique and creative ways to include the brand deal. I really don’t understand the problem with ads at the moment? That’s another story though.

I could probably go on, but I won’t. And I wanted to say, yes okay there are always times where an apology is needed. But if we throw it around like this, when it comes to the actual necessary apology the word sorry becomes less purposeful and valid. Does that make sense?

I’d love to know other people’s thoughts on the matter!

Em x
Ty Brooke Clarke for taking these photos for me x
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41 Comments

  1. 26/06/2018 / 3:56 pm

    We definitely need to stop apologising for these things. I don’t think I do really apart from when I take a break from blogging without telling anyone

    Sophie | http://www.sophiesspot.co.uk

    • emibeccamarven
      29/06/2018 / 11:13 am

      Yesss, I’m the same! x

    • emibeccamarven
      29/06/2018 / 11:12 am

      Aww thank you! Aren’t we all! xx

  2. 28/06/2018 / 6:41 pm

    I love your photos! Deffo agree with the ‘another one’ post aha – sometimes when I’m travelling and then I’m back home I feel annoying posting more photos from the trip after I’ve left but sometimes they’re just too many nice ones to post haha! x

    G

    http://www.teawithgi.com

    • emibeccamarven
      29/06/2018 / 11:11 am

      Thank you! Yessss exactly! x

  3. 29/06/2018 / 11:18 am

    Great post. It is true we all apologise for everything

    • emibeccamarven
      02/07/2018 / 11:21 am

      Thank you! x

  4. 29/06/2018 / 11:25 am

    Great post. You are sooo right!

    • emibeccamarven
      02/07/2018 / 11:20 am

      Ahhh thank you!

  5. 29/06/2018 / 6:10 pm

    Hi. Thank you for this post; it makes so much sense and it is refreshing to read. I do feel guilty if I take a break from my usual schedule but you have helped reinforce I don’t need to. I’m also going to bookmark this blog for future reading 🙂

    • emibeccamarven
      02/07/2018 / 11:20 am

      Aww it’s okay! I get it, I love keeping to my schedule but I really don’t need to! Aww thank you so much! xx

  6. Yeah Lifestyle
    30/06/2018 / 8:35 pm

    I totally agree with you. As a blogger I get so worried on what I post and if its going to offend anyone although we do practice freedom of speech here in the UK. Enjoyed reading your post and love your style as well.

    http://www.yeahlifestyle.com

    • emibeccamarven
      02/07/2018 / 11:18 am

      Aww thank you! Exactly we really don’t need to worry – at the end of the day we’re only human x

  7. 01/07/2018 / 11:39 pm

    You will have to agree to let me skate on thin ice as that is part of my brand or whatever lol. Interesting read and I wonder if the level of sorry varies according to gender or nationality. Popping over via Bloggers on Thin Ice

    • emibeccamarven
      02/07/2018 / 11:17 am

      That’s very true! x

  8. 02/07/2018 / 8:55 am

    I’ve not been feeling very well recently and really need to take a break so this post came at the right time as I will not be feeling sorry for taking one!

    • emibeccamarven
      02/07/2018 / 11:16 am

      Awww no I hope you’re feeling better lovely! Yesss exactly, you need to look after yourself first! xx

  9. 02/07/2018 / 5:42 pm

    Love the realness of this post!! Definitely agree that the blogging community needs to stay raw and real – that’s the best thing about it is being able to relate to other bloggers and trust their opinions!! Beautiful pictures as well!!

    Lauren | laurenjcole.wordpress.com

    • emibeccamarven
      02/07/2018 / 9:47 pm

      Aww thank you, I’m so glad!! Yesss so true, awww thank you! xx

  10. 02/07/2018 / 7:24 pm

    I really love these and absolutely agree! Thank you for the great reminders!

    • emibeccamarven
      03/07/2018 / 7:38 am

      Aww thank you I’m so glad! X

  11. 02/07/2018 / 7:57 pm

    I definitely see a lot of people apologising when I think, nooo there’s no need!! Another one is people apologising (normally on Instagram stories) for not having any make-up on or not having perfect hair. And I’m like nooo, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, it’s your space and that’s just how you look, don’t apologise!!

    Sarah
    http://www.sarahaurorax.com

    • emibeccamarven
      03/07/2018 / 7:38 am

      Yesss exactly, you shouldn’t have to apologise for being you!!

  12. 02/07/2018 / 8:07 pm

    Love this especially the one about taking a break. Most of us already kill ourselves at times trying to create new and fresh content, but to feel bad about having to unplug for a bit is unfair. We are humans just like everyone else and deserve a little time to rest and be relax.

    • emibeccamarven
      03/07/2018 / 7:39 am

      Aww thank you! Yesss so so true!

  13. 02/07/2018 / 8:13 pm

    Preach! I totally agree with you. As a creative, I think breaks are totally necessary and can be so helpful in allowing us to recharge or find inspiration to produce even better content.

    Shirin | http://www.queenshirin.com

    • emibeccamarven
      03/07/2018 / 7:39 am

      Yesss they really are!! Thanks lovely☺️

  14. 03/07/2018 / 9:56 am

    Love this post! I totally agree with you on the #ads, in a normal job if someone got commission etc it wouldn’t be thought twice of, would it? There’s so much stigma around it. Xx

    • emibeccamarven
      03/07/2018 / 3:54 pm

      Aww thank you!! Yesss exactly, if you love the brand and you’re earning money you should celebrate it! Xx

  15. Georgina Gardner
    03/07/2018 / 3:44 pm

    Yes, yes , yes and also yes! These are so true and you’ve hit the nail right on the head there. We absolutely shouldnt be apologising for these things yet we always do. I’m definitely going to take this on board and be less apologetic with things that I really dont need apologising for.

    • emibeccamarven
      03/07/2018 / 3:55 pm

      Ahh I’m so glad! X

  16. 03/07/2018 / 6:59 pm

    What a great topic! I couldn’t agree more!

    • emibeccamarven
      06/07/2018 / 3:07 pm

      Aww thank you! x

  17. 03/07/2018 / 7:23 pm

    Bloody hell, your photographer is alright, isn’t she? 😉 But I honestly couldn’t agree more about all of these! I’ve seen so many people apologising for posting so many ads, but like you said, someone with an office job wouldn’t apologise for going to work 5 days a week! xx

    Brooke | http://www.brookeclarke.com

    • emibeccamarven
      06/07/2018 / 3:12 pm

      Gurl she’s bloomin’ talented I’ll tell you that 😉 Yessss exactly! I was always so bamboozled by it! xx

  18. 03/07/2018 / 8:32 pm

    I’m terrible for apologising for ads even though it’s my job… and taking a break! I always feel super guilty when I don’t blog for x many days! So silly!

    • emibeccamarven
      06/07/2018 / 3:13 pm

      Gal I love the content you create so when I see you’re earning from it too I’m like HELL YAAS as you bloomin’ well deserve it! And you deserve a break to let yourself refresh a little! xx

  19. 16/07/2018 / 12:59 pm

    I love this post! I’m always saying sorry and was just about to write in a Twitter blog group ‘sorry I haven’t posted’ when actually, I’m not sorry I’ve had lots of family time and had a lovely couple of weeks. I think sometimes life gets in the way and that’s fine! But it’s equally as fine if you’re completing on it and posting three times in one day. Fab post xxx

    • emibeccamarven
      25/07/2018 / 9:32 am

      Aww Thank you! Yesss exactly, you’re only human! xxx

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