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THIS ONE GOES OUT TO ALL THE ONLINE FRIENDSHIPS

10/09/2018

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Picture this. The year is 2016, an 18 year old Emily decided to hop onto WordPress and write a blog. Now the year is 2018 and somehow shes kept it going. And has managed to make some friends along the way. And this is a shoutout to those online friendships. The friendships which started out as a couple of tweet and have progressed to a couple of coffee dates. The friendships which started purely online, on the same platforms you use for finding out if everyone else’s Instagram and where you can choose you’re relationships or hook-up by a left or right swipe. But have moved offline, out of this social media society we’re in and becomes a real and raw friendship.

Online Friendships

Making friends online has always left me in two minds. In one ear I’m hearing endless teachers and parents whispering in my ear to be cautious when talking to people online. *stranger danger* and all that. But in the other ear I’m hearing that it’s okay to consider what essentially is an avatar and username at that point, a friend.

And to be completely honest, during all this I’m happily tapping away to strangers on the Internet most days anyway. And I think I can tell when I’m talking to an actual person instead of Neil, aged 47, sat in his shed pretending to be a 18 year old girl. I’d like to think I have some common sense. But the reality is, it’s not that deep, so long as you aren’t silly about it. And I love the fact that our 280 character conversations of getting to know eachother can lead to coffee dates and long old facetime chats.

Online Friendships

Online Friendships

You see, I’m a very feeble friend. Usually 20 minutes late and will always go to reply to your text, but then completely forget what she’s doing and go make a cuppa instead. So a hot mess basically. I’m also a very quiet person naturally. I am that girl in the ‘when we meet and when you get to know me’ memes. I wouldn’t call it insecure or not confident, just reserved. Just get a couple of drinks down me and we’re good to go. But my virtual personality is anything I want it to be. Obvs not Neil aged 47. But a witty, confident Em that if you were to meet me in my A level sociology class, you wouldn’t see.

Speaking of A levels. From the years of 2014 to 2018 I’ve had a very select group of friends. Most of which were outside of college, which isn’t as depressing as it sounds. I was just a bit judgey. I also became very ill within the first 5 months of my A levels which left me missing out on a lot and being seen as a recluse. But when I logged onto Twitter to join in on the twitter chat of the evening, cuppa in hand. I could press the refresh button on myself and be inclusive and sociable. It is crazy that we can put whatever we want out there. Whether it’s our whole lives or just a taste. You can watch people grow, travel the world, have a breakdown right before your eyes. And you become invested in someones life and well being so quickly.

Online Friendships

And isn’t it just great when someone gets you. Whether it be an emotional sense or a creative sense. The fact that I have people I can create content with and try new things and brainstorm with and call them my pal and tell them about my anxiety and personal life is freaking amazing.

And although I will always have a very special place in my heart for those friendships that have seen me through the school years and weird unicorn obsession stage. There’s this beauty to finding yourself in a realm with people who share the same interests as you. Talking about what you’re passionate about and listening to other people talk about their passions sets off a spark. And this mutual connection is born and it’s bloomin’ wonderful. And it’s all thanks to the internet that we have these people surrounding us. Whether it’s still virtually or has become physically as well. Sharing interests, whether it’s blogging or knitting socks for dogs, and then cheering eachother on as we go.

So I just want to conclude with saying you’ve still got to be smart. We don’t want any catfishing situations here. But creating friendships on the internet has moved from a very outcast blemish, to being very mainstream. Obviously with any online community it’s not all daises. It’s definitely like a real life mean girls at times, but just keep out of the drama and practice what you preach and you’ll be fine. And I feel very lucky to have some beautiful people inside and out supporting me all thanks to the blogging community.

Em x
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  1. Lucy ✨ (@lucyc0le) says

    10/09/2018 at 5:23 pm

    Such a lovely post Em. Twitter is full of amazing people and like you say, stay out of drama’s way and you’re sure to find some amazing girls just like you!!

    Lucy | http://www.lucy-cole.co.uk

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    • Emilybecca says

      11/09/2018 at 7:18 pm

      Thank you so much lovely, exactly! Ahaha oh you!

      Reply
  2. foreverseptember1 says

    10/09/2018 at 10:25 pm

    Absolutely loved this post. I’ve made so many amazing friendships through the online world, people who I would have never met otherwise and I think thats amazing. People who share the same interests as me and people who I can chat to for hours on end. Its so heartwarming.

    Lucy | Forever September

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    • Emilybecca says

      11/09/2018 at 7:20 pm

      Thank you so much lovely, aww that’s amazing! It’s so fulfilling isn’t it.

      Reply
  3. Yossy says

    11/09/2018 at 9:14 am

    Loved this post! I relate too much to a lot of this especially the forgetting to reply because I’m making tea aha.

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    • Emilybecca says

      11/09/2018 at 7:20 pm

      Thank you lovely! Ahaha we’ve all been there!

      Reply
  4. Brooke Nicole Clarke says

    11/09/2018 at 3:39 pm

    Yes, yes yes! I can honestly say I have more online friends than friends in the real world. There’s always going to be internet dickheads along the way, but there is truly something special about finding someone you get along with online! x

    Brooke | http://www.brookeclarke.com

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    • Emilybecca says

      11/09/2018 at 7:22 pm

      Literally! Exactly, alas we can’t avoid the dicks but there’s plenty of lovely likeminded people to connect with! x

      Reply
  5. Isobel says

    12/09/2018 at 7:17 am

    It’s honestly amazing how many people you can meet online that can soon become your friends! It’s so lovely in the blogging community how this can happen! You made me laugh with the knitting socks for dogs sort too Em!

    Isobel x

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    • Emilybecca says

      12/09/2018 at 2:41 pm

      Isn’t it! The blogging community is so open and lovely I bloomin love it hahaha thanks gal xx

      Reply
  6. Amita says

    12/09/2018 at 4:46 pm

    This is such a lovely post! I’m just like you, reserved on the outside but completely confident online. I’ve definitely had a bad experience with online friends but I know there’s lots of lovely bloggers who are supportive and creative. xx

    amerzwithlove.com

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    • Emilybecca says

      14/09/2018 at 9:09 am

      Aww thank you! Oh no I hope it’s all okay now lovely! xx

      Reply
  7. Lauren-J says

    12/09/2018 at 5:17 pm

    This post is so lush! I’m the same as you – quite reserved in person but much happier to perk up online! 😂 there are so many lovely people out there especially in the online blogging community! 😊 Xx

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    • Emilybecca says

      14/09/2018 at 9:11 am

      It’s so lovely how we can be ourselves, even if it is virtually! Yesss xx

      Reply
  8. Sharni Hastings says

    13/09/2018 at 2:45 am

    I’ve made so many friends online and through my blog, and since I deal with a bit of social anxiety, it’s become such an easy way to maintain somewhat of a social life whilst being busy and dealing with chronic illnesses, etc! Love these photos, Emily.

    Sharni | http://www.agirlandgrey.com

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    • Emilybecca says

      14/09/2018 at 9:14 am

      Awww I’m so glad for you lovely! Thank you lovely xx

      Reply
  9. Macey Gloria says

    13/09/2018 at 11:40 pm

    In 2015, I met one of my now best friends through twitter & because of blogging. I think it’s amazing how technology was able to bring us together; a friendship that wouldn’t be possible even 10 years ago, especially considering I live in California and she, near London. Loved this post x

    twinklexthoughts.blogspot.com

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    • Emilybecca says

      14/09/2018 at 9:24 am

      Awww that’s so lovely! x

      Reply
  10. Sarah Ⓥ (@SarahAurorax) says

    18/09/2018 at 3:04 pm

    Yes yes yes to this post! I was in a similar situation as you, I wasn’t ill but I didn’t have a lot of friends and the friends I did have were all outside of uni, outside of the country even! Now I’ve found so many more people that I have a true connection with, even if I’ve never met them (yet!) and I couldn’t be happier with what my little blog has brought me

    Sarah
    http://www.sarahaurorax.com

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    • Emilybecca says

      19/09/2018 at 8:37 am

      Ahhh I’m so glad you liked it lovely! xx

      Reply
  11. Gemma says

    20/09/2018 at 9:32 am

    I’ve made so many friends online/through blogging and I’m so grateful, I have no friends with baba’s but now have so many that I’ve made through twitter etc and it makes the whole parenting lark a lot less lonely!

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    • Emilybecca says

      20/09/2018 at 1:44 pm

      Awww I’m so glad!! x

      Reply
  12. shaunaclairegg says

    05/10/2018 at 9:51 pm

    Absolutely loved reading this post, and I couldn’t agree more! Online friendships are some of the best ones I have!

    Shauna | https://goddessguide.co.uk

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    • Emilybecca says

      11/10/2018 at 10:34 am

      Ahhh thank you! I’m so glad! xx

      Reply

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